Be More Alpha
Useful Notes
Over the past 8-9 years, I have taken over 200 pages of notes. Here are some of mine and others that I have found useful
Alpha Male Characteristics
Short on time: The Alpha man has places to go, people to see. He does not have 3 hours for phone calls. He is pacient but he does not have the time to wait on a woman more than 15 minutes when she’s late. He does not have more than a minute to wait for her to talk to someone else on call waiting. (I hang up on women that leave me dangling on call waiting or hold. If that other call is so important, they can call the other person back. When was the last time you really had an “emergency” phone call?)
- Self-interested, first and foremost: This is not to be confused with selfish, or self- centered. It only means that the Alpha Man’s life and his fun come first. If he doesn’t act to ensure his own satisfaction in life, he’ll die a miserable martyr.
- Creates his own reality: An Alpha Man realizes that he cannot be dependent on anyone to make his life fun, so he must do it himself. He creates a “bubble” of happiness, fun, and...
PUA Lingo
Pick Up Artist Lingo
AAA - Approach Anxiety
AFC - Average Frustrated Chump
AFOG - Alpha Female Of Group
AI - Accomplished Introduction
AI - Approach Invitation
AK - AMOG Killer
AMOG - Alpha Male Of Group
AMOG - Alpha Male Other Guy
Anti-AI - Anti-Approach Invitationa
PUA - Aspiring Pick Up Artist
ASD - Anti-Slut Defense
Sticking Points
*fuck ups*
Having A.A. No opener
Not doing Kino
Not smiling
Not being loud enough
Leaning in
Not locking in-grab a chair- be as comfortable or more comfortable than the set
Not dealing with afc's/AMOGS
Not leaving a set properly- Self ejecting without at least a nuber close attempt.
Being creepy and clingy, Larking predator look, they don't enjoy themselves.
Not choosing a target
Not isolating - moving a girl - Bouncing
Running out of things to say...
Keep Her Happy
There is a lot of competition out there. Keep her happy. Spend time with her. Make time for her. Make her laugh. Share things with her. Tell her a couple of your secrets and childhood adventures. Ask her how her day was. Listen to her. Lend her an ear and shoulder when she needs it. *To avoid “the friend zone,” do it more when she is your GF already not when you are trying to get at her!Try Staying True, Honest and Loyal. I try not to lie. Try. The brain of a man hardy keeps up with lies. Females are intelligent. They pick up on insincerity...
Cocky Funny = Funny Confident
Cocky Funny remarks are to build attraction and to show her that you have a healthy sense of humor. The point is not to be cocky funny but FUNNY & CONFIDENT. I do not really like Negs because newbies always end up insulting the girl. This game is an Awareness based
game that should be calibrated very carefully. If you see that she is being insulted, tone it down. If she is playfully hitting you and/or laughing, you are doing something right.
So, do not insult and do not piss her off. ALSO one more thing...
Sexual Innuendo VS. Sexual Frames
Sexual Innuendo VS. Sexual Frames
We have all heard, “be sexual” with women. Well, “Being sexual” can mean many different things: sexual body language, sexual voice tone, sexual kino (touching), and sexual verbals.Sexual verbals are indirect statements. Most understand how to do dirty talk or direct sexual talk, but that is generally not used until end game or relationship game. Sexual verbals in the early part of an interaction with a new person usually take the form of sexual innuendo.Sexual innuendo:"That's what she said"I have a job for you, but it blows...
Stripper Game
Rule #1 Never tell them that they are strippers! They are "DANCERS." And NEVER EVER be judgmental about their work!Strip ClubsRULE #1 ITS ALL... UPSIDE DOWN AND INSIDE OUTthe rules to gaming inside a strip club are inside out and upside down from anything outside those doors. telling her NOT to take her clothes off draws her in. Refusing to...
Buying Temperature
When I started the game, I always thought Pumping Buying Temperature was getting her hot and horny. Pumping Buying Temperature is basically getting her in an Emotional state instead of a Logical state (LEI). Making her laugh/tease her.Projection has to be on point. Acting it perfectly delivering energy. Verbalizing: Everything has to be exaggerated...
Complience tests
Many have been asking me what are Compliance tests. After pumping her body temperature, you ask for compliance. Compliance test: A verbal or non-verbal method that builds her attraction towards you. Encouraging and qualifying the right choice through a reward/punishment stratagem given to her to either pass or fail. It is to establish and maintaining the leader/masculine/dominance versus the follower/feminine/submissive frame. You tease by using...
10 Rules of Approaching
The rules are simple. Here are the 10 most crucial.
1. Approach immediately
2. Sit asap. (Lock in. You always want to be more comfortable than them)
3. Pay attention to what they are talking about.
4. Rift off their threads(Remember the rules of thread cutting: Acknowledge-Relate-Thread cut)
5. Have a deeper meaning to your stories. (Men talk about boring facts. Women talk about emotions they felt)
6. Be a touchy feely guy (Kino)...
Law Of Attracton
The Law of Attraction states: I attract to myself, whatever I give my focus, attention, or energy to; whether wanted or unwanted. If you think about being broke, poor, lonely and believe your thoughts guess what? That is exactly what you’ll be. This Law applies to your life and every other person’s life on the planet. Like all laws, it is impartial and impersonal, which means it works when you want it to and when you don’t want it to. Everything comes to us through the most elemental law of physics – Like Attracts Like! Like Attracts Like is nothing more than the Law of Attraction. It is absolute and has nothing to do with your personality, your religious beliefs, being a “good” or a “bad” person or anything else. No one lives beyond this Law. It is an unquestionable law of the universe.“Thoughts Become Things.”Imagine starting to believe in yourself and...
5 Easy Ways to Kill A.A.
5 Easy Ways to Kill A.A. (Approach Anxiety)
1. The 5-5-5. Write down 5 Openers. 5 Stories. 5 negs. Keep your notes in your back pocket. Practice and learn all of them. Memorize them. You can always look at them even during set if you cant remember.
2. Breathe. When you are infield always remember to breathe. There are some breathing exercises to help you relax. Close your eyes, inhale, count from one Mississippi to ten Mississippi then exhale. Repeat. Do this for 5 minutes.
3. You see her-You like her-Launch yourself before you can say “One Mississippi.” Walk towards a woman and just think of what could you have said. What was she wearing/doing?…Write on your notes what you could have said...
List of Negs
NEGS are back-handed insults wrapped in a compliment
Negs are used to bring a woman down to the level they should be. Not to insult. They are harsh compliments. Always deliver with a SMILE and quickly continue with conversation. Never answer counter Negs.
(Use 1 or 2 negs for “7 and 8‘s”)(3 or 4 for “9 and 10‘s”)
-it’s too bad you are not my type cuz you are pretty cute.
You look like a good girl. Id be so toxic for you! For example, Do you go to college? Well, I would ask you not to go in and stay with me or call off. {ALL girls want to be bad! Then, you make her qualify herself.}
-It’s so sad I’m gay cuz you are SO my type
-Thank you, you can go now ...
DHV Stories
Now, it is always best to use adventurous stories of your own! That way, if they are true, you don't really have to worry about stumbling and remembering all the details. For now, fake-it-til-you-make-it!
1) "I was walking through the forest, you know right? When this bear suddenly stood up in front of me! I was scared shirtless-I didn't know what to do! I stood there frozen and scared. If I ran the bear would chase me and devour me! I remembered a trick by laying on the ground as if I was dead. Suddenly the bear sniffed me and I didn't oppose a threat to him anymore then walked off into the wooded forest. I got up and felt so relieved that my life was safe from a simple trick... Talking about tricks, let me show you a trick and no it doesn't required playing dead! Here' I'll show you!"
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Time Constraints
Implied Time Constraints also know as False Time Constraint in the community…Just Only Real Quick/ Quickly RapidlyAt Least Little One Last Thing Before I go. Before we get into that. For 1:37 seconds. I have to go in a sec…I know you are busy/I know you have to get back to (what she is doing) If you watch Alphas, will notice more and more that they use tons of time constrains. Not only at the beginning or the end, time constraints work during the interaction as well. When you feel like the interaction is dying or when she is about to give you a, “I have to go,” you throw in a time constraint before she does! “I know you are busy/ I know you have to get back to (what she is doing”“…FOR JUST for a 1:27 seconds…”“I can ONLY stay a second but…”“Let’s make it QUICK”“We should AT LEAST sit down for a minute and twelve seconds”“We should hand out for A LITTLE Bit”“ONE LAST THING…”“BEFORE I GO…”“I have to go back to…”
Dealing With AMOGs
If you are in set, and a guy (AMOG) comes in and tries to talk to your girl, you have to introduce yourself if she doesnt do so. You ask her, who is your friend? and then ask her How long have you guys know each other? (Not HOW do you know each other, but FOR HOW LONG have u known each other) If he is a friend, then befriend the friend. As soon as she stops paying attention to him, you stop paying attention to him as well. Now, if he is a AMOG that is just trying to steal your set, you simply blow him off. Say stuff like,Cool man Thanks for noticing Glad you like it Glad you are jealous So that’s why you like me so much If you say so…Whatever. Give him your back. Let him speak over your shoulder. Do not react to him. Don’t get upset. Dont accept his frame. Dont jump through his hoops You reply to anything he says with these remarks. AMOG: “You are fucking gay man”PUA: Cool man (Back turn) AMOG: “Your shit looks retarded”PUA: Thanks man (With back turn)You can always tell him, Give me a second. Take the girls hand and just relocate her. Or, “Dude, you are so awesome, I am going to buy you a drink, what do you want? Wait here ok.” Then take the girl and dont come back.lol. If you are a caveman, and this is advanced, you can throw her over yourshoulder, and take her!!!!!!!!
The Question Game
The Question Game "Have you ever played the question game? Well there are rules... "Rule 1, you ask a question, then me, then you, and so on, back and forth. "Rule 2, you have to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Like truth or dare but without the dare because I don't know how weird you really are." [Notice the neg.] "Rule 3, you can't ask the same question that's already been asked. "Rule 4, you have to ask questions that let skeletons out of the closet. Take advantage of our anonymity. "Oh and.. .Rule 5, you go first." She will say, "that's not fair." So you then ask, "How many boyfriends have you had?"
Make Her Want to Swallow
To most, semen isn’t a taste that people crave. There may be a few people out there who can honestly admit to liking the taste of Jizz, but most will compare it to a bitter salt tablet. Most men wish their partner would swallow, and usually the biggest road block is the fact that their partner hates the taste. Here are some tips that will help to improve the taste of your semen.Diet Influences Your Semen’s Taste And SmellLike your other bodilly secretions, semen’s taste and smell is affected directly by what you eat and drink. Like you may notice, the taste of your female partner’s vaginal secretions is also linked to what she eats or drinks. Have you ever noticed that if you eat a meal consisting of onions or garlic, the smell seems to escape from your skin pores the next day? Your cum is the same way and although the specific taste or odor may be difficult to detect, it does have an influence on the overall taste...
5 Tips For Better Posture
How To Improve Your Posture. Don’t be a hunchback! Building your body is a great idea; slouching isn’t. You don’t need to look likea marine but a straight spine radiates confidence and actually makes you feel better. This is because your physiology is directly linked to your emotions.If you’re going to spend all that time working out and eating right, you mightas well maximize your efforts by standing tall. Here’s 5 easy ways to improveyour posture.(1) The Balloon Method. My favorite technique and not very well known.Try this: If you don’t have great posture, stand up right now. Now imagine thatthere is a balloon on a string extending from the crown of your head. Imaginethat this balloon is pulling your head upwards towards the sky. You’llautomatically stand upright with your spine elongated...
Nice Guys Finish Last
Everyone’s heard the saying ‘nice men (or women) finish last’. If you’ve been in this position, it’s like being late for work, even though you left your house early. Or getting sick after eating food from your favorite restaurant. You did everything you normally would do to impress someone, but you ended up empty-handed. Whether you’ve been the one who left behind a good one, or been the one left behind, here’s five reasons why nice guys/girls finish last:1. Putting the wrong person on the pedestal. Often we feel like the person of our desire is so great, and so we’re wondering why they don’t want us back because we’re so wonderful too. People are often a reflection of the people they chose to be in their life. So if you see a “good person” go for something0...
Qualifing the Girl
JUST CONVEYING PERSONALITY SO THE GIRLS GET TO KNOW YOU, QUALIFYING YOUR TARGET, BUT ALL THE WHILE RE-INITIATING STATE WITH CALLBACK HUMOUR:
The idea is that you're running a normal pickup, but using callback humour and the cocky & playful roleplaying stuff. So this gives you the maneuverability to run a nice normal conversation, but keeping the interaction charged with this stuff.
-Use "reverse-EV" type stuff, so that she's finding out positive things about you and building trust. The whole pickup lasts usually around 4-7 hours, start to lay. You're supposed to be conveying personality during this time. The accusing-them thing is something you do as their state drops, or when you see a good opening to do so. It's not the entire method, since just teasing won't get you laid except by party girls. With party girls, just tease the fuck out of them, that's it.
-Qualify her to you, and every time you act impressed and then say "wait a minute.. what are you doing.. I can't talk to you anymore, you're trouble"
-Ask her arbitrary questions about herself, and then pretend like you're hitting buying temperature...
AMOG Destroyers
AMOGing
AMOG: Hey girls whats up (or whatever)
PUA: Hey dude dude (putting hands up like you give up).
I will pay you a HUNDRED dollars right now, to take these girls away from me.
(Girls will go "no no no... we love you PUA.. noooooo"
and giggle and crawl on you.. Again, immediately deflating to the guy)
AMOG: Hey girls what's up (or whatever)
PUA: Dude, OMG that shirt is AWESOME.. I had one just like it in highschool,
it fucking rocks man.. Having a good time in London man.. It's awesome huh?
Dude you're like the coolest guy I met all night.. (patting him on the shoulder)
AMOG: (showing signs that he wants to fight)
PUA: hahah, dude, are you like trying to pick a fight with me? hahahha..
ok ok hold up hold up.. wait a sec, we'll do even better.. first...
we'll have an armwrestling competition.. then second..
we'll do one armed pushups.. and last..... POSE-DOWN!!
Speech Communication 101
Six lessons designed to shape up your speech. Speak more confidently and be better able to communicate with your listeners - and this improved ability to communicate will be translating into more success not just for pickup but for you in your business, job or profession.
Lesson 1 - Enunciation Matters (Speech Skill: Clarity)
Lesson 2 – Axe Those Fillers (Speech Skill: Clarity)
Lesson 3 – Enthusiasm and Monotones Don’t Mix (Speech Skill: Expression)
Lesson 4 – Motormouths Don’t Make Sales (Speech Skill: Pace)
Lesson 5 – Buzzwords and Slang Bury Your Message (Speech Skill: Clarity)
Lesson 6 – Active Listening Is The Most Important Thing You Say (Speech Skill: Listening)
Building Comfort
Comfort
I usually change *my* state, but not from one second to the
other, but slooow, in a more "fluid" way. like you reduce the cocky/funny
slowly over time and get into more serious topics step by step and also throw
in less and less of that cocky/funny attitude and be more serious step by step.
this is a crucial step, cause as rio pointed out once, "chicks don´t fuck
clowns"!
I’ll go as far as to say something, on Day 1, after we have meeting plans, like “Last time I went out with a girl that I kissed in a club she tries to kiss me as soon as we met, the next time. I don’t know if you girls are scared about that?” And she just picks up where I left off. Then she be like “Yeah, wow, me too.” Use all their shit against them. Use every single thing they’ve ever used against you against them.
Building Rapport
When in Comfort, Here is Hot to build Conversational Rapport
"Have you ever been to the hospital emergency room?"
"How old where you when you first got drunk?"
"Did you and your siblings keep secrets'?"
"Ever bad a very rough breakup?"
"What's your favorite food / vacation / place to visit" (use your imagination)
The Question Game
"Have you ever played the question game? Well there are rules...
"Rule 1, you ask a question, then me, then you, and so on, back and forth.
"Rule 2, you have to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth...
Relationship Problem Solver
Relationship Problem: Communication
If both busy, make some time to talk.
Set up some rules like, not interrupting until the other is through or banning phrases such as "You always ..." or "You never ...."
If you can't "communicate" without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant where you'd be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
Use body language to show you are listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch, or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you're getting the message, and rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, "What I hear you saying is that you feel as though you have more chores at home, even though we're both working." Don’t be a smart ass either. If you're right, the other can confirm. If what the other person really meant was, hey, you're a slob and you create more work for me by having to pick up after you, he or she can say so, but in a nicer way.
Relationship Problem: Sex
"Sex brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy."
Plan, plan, plan...
Inner Game
March 15, 2013
Reality is not a bad thing. We have to know where we are so we can design the appropriate strategy for getting to where we want to be. The challenge is our attitude around “reality” and being “realistic” and what being realistic has cost us. Often that’s our passion and joy, our hopes and dreams. You are tested daily. It’s often not easy, but this intention has helped me maintain composure, sanity, and a sense of humor.
Four Intentional Steps: ...
Male Archytypes
April 22, 2013
The purpose of the Art of Manliness is to help men become better men. To that end, we often explore some of the problems unique to modern men and offer suggestions on actions they can take to overcome those problems. One problem that we discuss regularly on the site is that of the modern male malaise. Maybe you’ve experienced it: You feel restless and without a sense of purpose. You lack confidence in yourself as a man. You might be 20 or 30 or 40 years old, but you don’t feel like you’ve reached manhood.
A few weeks ago, we did a series called “The Five Switches of Manliness.” In it we made the case that within every man are psychological “switches” that must be turned on if a man wishes to activate his unique primordial masculine energy. The switches are how you power up the Wild Man within you and overcome the feelings of shiftlessness and male malaise that many men experience these days.
Another way of approaching the cure for the modern male malaise...
Winging Rules
The Wing Rules
1) He who opens the set, OWNS the set. He gets first choice of target.
2) The primary purpose of the wing is to help the player get his target. If the wing can also game up his own target from the group, fine. But that is not his first priority.
3) Don't ever steal the target. Sometimes the player is ignoring or negging his target while working the group. It would be really easy to go into his set at this point and give attention to the target — don't do it!
4) The wing should occupy the obstacles so that the player gets more time one-on-one with his target.
5) Always agree with your wing. Never take the girls' side over him. He is always right.
6) Your wing is a great guy, a cool guy. That is why you hang out with him. After all, you have high standards.
7) Your wing's feelings are important to you, even more important than the girl's feelings. If he approaches your set, you will turn to face him...
Improv: Never Run Out of Things to Say
Practice these games with friends / wings
1. Mention everything in the room as fast as possible. Taking turns one thing at a time. Pay attention to what the other person mentions. You cannot repeat that item. This builds listening skills and gets you talking. (John: Lamp, Paul: Poster, John:TV, Paul: pensil, John:desk... )
2. Say a story for one minute. Your friend interrupts you in the middle with something you mentioned so you have to start talking about that for one minute. In the middle of that topic, he interrupts you again, mentions another word that you said and you start talking about that topic now... It continues for 10 minutes. Then, you can switch.
3. Start mentioning a made up story and stop at 15 seconds and the other person has to continue the story and continuing to make it up. Back and forwarth for as long as you can...
Canned Openers
Canned Openers are training wheels and were created to get you talking. Eventually, you want to become natural. But if you are a beginer, they are great training wheels
-hey you know what? You guys can settle a debate my friend and I are having ...
-Baby opener. Why is it that people talk to a baby like u so cuuuute? Do you think they understand the words or the actions. (Recall opener by Complience test Let me hear your baby talking voice or neg by telling her You so cuuuuute squeeze her cheek. Baby fat)
-Do You think it is ok for a girl to smoke a cigarette after she found out she was pregnant?
-Do you think it is ok to date your friends ex after he said it was ok?
-I need your expertise on something, My friends girlfriend tried pulling a move on me. that’s my best friend. What would you guys do?
-My friend Melvin girlfriend became a stripper. What should he do?…but she goes to usc double majoring in psychology and business
-Can you guys keep a secret? I need some advice too. My friends girlfriend tried to kiss me today. I don’t want to tell him! What should I do?...
Canned Material
(Shit tests/ C&F)
Shittest: "You suck", answer with sly smile "glad you like it."
"what are you looking at?" (If they caught you looking at their tits), say
"shsst, I'm not done yet" and keep looking at her tits with curious look (for
a while).
she says she has to go find her friends.. “I would like to meet your friends.” Then go meet and charm her friends.
Next time that a chick does ANYTHING that gives you an excuse, or even
something that you can pretend to MISINTERPRET as bad (in fact, this is even
better/funnier), and gives you an excuse, go "awfffff" and turn your back on
her and just stand there for 5 seconds before turning back around. Do it in a
way that's playful, or if she's making like she might leave or says she has a
BF, do it serious.
Keep doing this, until you learn to calibrate it so that they'll grab you and...